When do you draw the line?

When do you draw the line on your relationship? I listened to someone very close tell me of the trouble she was having with working on her failed marriage. She was wondering when do you say "I have done what I can, I have given all I have and I don't have anymore to give". Does she carry on another few months, another year. What time limit do you put on something like a marriage of ten years.

There is no more feeling from her side. She is prepared to go and see a physiologist with her husband, it see if they can salvage something. Even though she says that she does not have feelings for her husband.

I have been through something similar with my ex husband. Our marriage was over after two years but it took another fours years before we agreed to a divorce. Luckily there where no children involved.

From my experience, once the love and feeling is gone, it does not come back. What advise do you give? I told her to make sure that she has tried every possible option available to save her marriage and if it does not help then don't waste any more time on something that is only making you unhappy. She needs to also consider her children, who adore their father, and the effect that staying in a loveless marriage and/or going through a divorce is going to put them under.

It is a huge step to take. I know that she will do the right thing.

It bring to mind a line from a Reba McIntire song:

But it all comes down to the lesser of the two. Alone by myself or alone with you.

And if I have to be lonely I'd rather be lonely alone.